A few weeks ago I had to face up to the fact that I still have some work to do on the issue of a fear of failure. This fear can manifest in ways that don’t often seem at first like fear. When you look at the behaviour closely though, the root of it is fear. I am talking about the fact that we sometimes shrink back from making big decisions that affect our lives. I certainly do that more often than I would like.

I want someone else to make the decision for me so that if it goes pear-shaped, I don’t have to feel responsible. I take my time, under the guise of researching the facts, weighing the pros and cons, and even praying about it. The truth is, I don’t really want to make that call. Too much is at stake, and what if I fail?

There is a quote that goes like this: ‘Everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of fear.’

There is a lot of truth in that. I don’t want to be limited by a fear of failing. It will stop me from stepping out and trying new things. New things that could succeed and launch me further into my destiny.

Do you do the same? Procrastinate over decisions especially big ones? Prevaricating over decisions that need to be made has its roots in a fear of failing. And it’s a fear you would do well to stomp on before it really takes hold.

Perhaps it’s time to stop and ask yourselves a few questions like:

  • What is the worst that could happen if I get it wrong?
  • What opportunities might I be missing by not deciding quickly?
  • Who I am giving responsibility over my life by allowing them to decide for me? (and trust me, when you don’t decide, someone or something else will decide for you)

Good leaders learn to lead others by first leading themselves. And one of the ways you can lead yourself is by making the right decisions within a reasonable time frame.

My challenge? Practice making decisions more quickly over the next few weeks. Yes, look at the facts, do the research, pray if you need to. But once you have done all this – decide. Even if it turns out to be the wrong decision, you would have learned something anyway.

Decisions determine your direction. And the direction you choose to go in will determine your destiny. So decide.

No trumpets sound when the important decisions of our life are made – Destiny is made known silently. Agnes de Mille