Ask anyone you know about the meaning of success and you are sure to get as many different answers as the individuals you speak to.  Success is one of those concepts that mean different things to different people.  The free dictionary defines success as ‘ the achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted.’  And while this very true I would like to add another dimension.

 

Success is the achievement of something desired, planned or attempted, for which you were created.

 

Any one who has a creative bone in them knows that when they create something, they do this with the function that that thing will have when it is finished, in mind.  You don’t make a car and put wheels on it if you intend for it to be used on water.  You don’t make a vehicle with wings if you intend to use it on the road rather than in the air.  When you were made, with your personality, gifts and talents, the Creator had something in mind for you to do.  Attempting to do anything else will result in frustration or failure and you will ultimately give up.  Not to mention the fact that you will most likely be miserable trying to achieve something that you were not built for.

 

We like to tell our children that they can be anything they want to be.  This is not strictly true.  While they may have the potential to be whatever they want to be, they will only succeed at that for which they have gifts, talents and appropriate training for.  Even if they did succeed at anything else, they will not have the fulfilment that comes from knowing they are doing what they were born to do.

 

So how does one lead themselves to this place of success?

  • Know what you are passionate about.  Where your heart lies is often where you success lies.  Are you passionate about fitness?  Then perhaps you should be a fitness instructor, or a nutritionist.  Are you passionate about telling stories?  Then perhaps you should be a journalist rather than trying to make that job as a banker fulfil you.  What are you passionate about?  What would you do even if you were not paid to do it?
  • Know what your gifts or talents are.  Are you good at organising people and events?  Then event planning might me more up your street than teaching Maths.  Do you excel at making beautiful things that others would pay to add to their collection?  Are you skilled in creating order out of chaos?  What do you do easily that others would struggle with?  Don’t just put it down to chance; this is where your success lies – in the place of your natural gifts.
  • What has your training prepared you for?  I am not just talking about your university or college education.  Life’s experiences can be the biggest teacher.  What skills have you acquired in your journey so far?  Sometimes we have to ask other people about this, as we don’t always see the areas that we have skills in.  Many times we don’t value our skills until someone else has pointed it out.
  • And finally, what are you happiest doing?  If you wake up every morning with a sense of dread at the thought of going to work or to run that business, then something is definitely wrong.  You will only really succeed at something that brings you pleasure and a sense of fulfilment.  Often this will involve making someone else’s life better in some way.

 

So, today stop and think.  Are you succeeding?  Success is a journey, not a destination.  Are you on the right train?  Don’t settle for second best when you can have the best.  Do something today that will set you on the right track.  Make the choice to succeed.  And if you think Coaching would be helpful in pointing you in the direction, I would only be too happy to help.

 

To your success,
Oge